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  1. Mcjon01's Avatar
    Kobe is a go so I sent a line friend request to your email
    I’m going with a group so I don’t know how much free time I’ll actually have but as of right now my only set plans are Costco in the morning and leaving by bus at 8 p.m. so maybe the afternoon will work? I’ll let you know when I know more.
  2. Milbunk's Avatar
    Yeah they sure have been drowning us in Typhoons these past few couple of weeks. I was planning to go to Fukuoka or Sasebo as well but that may not happen either because of them.

    Just lemme know what's going on I'll be here.
  3. Mcjon01's Avatar
    Depending on how Kong-rey shakes out we may have to take a (literal) rain check haha
    If they end up shutting down traffic over the Seto Ohashi bridge then my bus ticket is going to get canceled too
  4. mewarmo990's Avatar
    Before I read the actual post I thought your PDQ was because you had calcified stones painfully moving through your tracts
  5. Dark Pulse's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by I3uster
    without any value judgement for anything in this situation please have someone read your posts before you finish them in regards to anything related to this because seriously dude someone died what the fuck are you saying man
    That's what happens when I wake right up and post, so yes, that is on me and I'll apologize. I am not very good until a few hours after I wake up.

    A funeral is a one-time thing to deal with - unfortunate, definitely not fun, but past whatever costs are incurred via the funeral process itself, there's nothing "else" that will come up days or weeks later and get you. The funeral directors aren't going to come up two weeks later and be like "sorry, we miscounted, you owe us $5000 more." Doesn't work like that, because they tally up the costs and give you your final number then and there.

    I had an ongoing event that just would not stop for multiple reasons, and had to be dealt with for literally several months - this is quite literally the longest span I've given without having to deal with warrants or pass money to my co-worker since this crap all began in July (and for her, it actually all began in late June - she did what she could before even coming to me). And while it was technically nothing to do with me, I chose to get involved in it and to try to solicit help once I'd blown past my own personal means to do so. So the onus of repaying those who helped her via me is on me, and the onus of her repaying me every dollar that I got her in help is on her. As I've said in the past, this is someone I've loaned literally thousands of dollars to in the past, and she has repaid me. There's no guarantee she will do it this time, but either way, *I* will make good on my debts to everyone who helped me even if I get fucked.

    I didn't keep asking because I wanted to, I kept asking because otherwise the odds of us beating the whole thing were slim to none. Now that it seems to be done (we haven't had to deal with a warrant in about 48 hours and hopefully it will stay that way), I don't need to ask for more money, and can finally get down to paying people off. We will deal with the check we are trying to get with our own finances.

    That was the point behind what I said.
  6. I3uster's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Dark Pulse
    Yours at least had the luxury
    without any value judgement for anything in this situation please have someone read your posts before you finish them in regards to anything related to this because seriously dude someone died what the fuck are you saying man
  7. Dark Pulse's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Spinach
    "Give me a break" he said after spamming irc asking for money for over a week. Your persistence has singlehandedly made me feel ashamed of myself for linking my brother's gofundme to help with the funeral bill of his wife just a couple weeks ago.

    Don't spend all this time literally begging then get snippy because you wrote something extremely misunderstandable and people rightfully misunderstood it.
    And when I explain myself and people STILL get it wrong?

    Do I get to be snippy then?

    Or do I just have to keep getting memed on the forums and take it? You think those pictures haven't gotten back to me?

    As for your case, you shouldn't feel ashamed. Only reason I've been "persistent" is because so have these charges and this saga. Yours at least had the luxury of being a single, set event. Ours seems to be over - we haven't had to deal with one in almost 48 hours now, so the DA pretty much has brought this to a close, I'm figuring - but there's a bit of a difference between a funeral and having to clear up a mess through the court system. So now that those have stopped, I've finally been able to tally up what I owe and know just how much I owe everyone.

    Or do you think I actually WANTED to keep running to here and begging people for money for some goddamn reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by just Beamu
    The funniest part of this is that if you hadn't mentioned dropping 700 on a monitor while owing people money this wouldn't likely have been brought up as an issue
    Like I said, heaven forbid I look forward to buying myself something nice after months of not having money, especially when one of the things mentioned was something I already HAD bought and sacrificed to help my co-worker out.

    The guy who's had to sacrifice all of his and other people's money having the audacity to think about stuff he'd like to buy when he once again has some money! What a bastard he is! People will help him out and he'll just go buy shit the second he has some money back apparently!

    Won't make that mistake again. Believe me, I'm more than sorry I even mentioned it. I have no idea what I was thinking except that people would agree "Yeah, treat yourself when this is all over, you've been through some shit."

    Now instead I get to be called a thief by people who didn't even give me a dime. My actions (and hopefully some documentation) will eventually clear my name because you bet your ass I'll be paying everyone back before buying a damn thing, but until then, this fucking hurts.
  8. just Beamu's Avatar
    The funniest part of this is that if you hadn't mentioned dropping 700 on a monitor while owing people money this wouldn't likely have been brought up as an issue
  9. Spinach's Avatar
    "Give me a break" he said after spamming irc asking for money for over a week. Your persistence has singlehandedly made me feel ashamed of myself for linking my brother's gofundme to help with the funeral bill of his wife just a couple weeks ago.

    Don't spend all this time literally begging then get snippy because you wrote something extremely misunderstandable and people rightfully misunderstood it.
  10. Dark Pulse's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Lianru
    Most -> all then try again honestly.
    It *IS* fucking all, jeez. "Most" is because the five people I owe the most to is 80% of what I owe. That's not going to disappear overnight, not unless that check is at least $10,000 after lawyer fees and my co-worker clearing her back bills, and I seriously doubt that is going to happen.

    Does nobody get this?

    Fuck, sorry for mentioning what I was looking forward to spoiling myself with or that I wanted to hold on to a little cash to make myself not be totally broke outside of paying my bills if people think I'm going to be that kind of prick. How the hell am I going to afford either of the things I mentioned when that check is probably going to be pretty toast and I will need to use several months of my work pay no matter what?

    Give me a fucking break already.
  11. Lianru's Avatar
    Most -> all then try again honestly.
  12. Dark Pulse's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Lianru
    I don't think it's in very good taste to talk about all the hundreds of dollars you plan to spend on things you don't need before paying back people who donated literally tons more than you put in yourself. They are honestly the real heroes and deserve to be treated as such.
    Quote Originally Posted by Snow
    Quite. You're talking about 'treating yourself' to superexpensive computer doodads, even listing their huge prices, while there's people yet to be paid off. I assume people donated with the intention of helping you and your coworker out of a difficult situation, not for your entertainment expenses, and you did iirc write a number of times in your posts that you intend to pay people back as soon as possible. EXTREMELY bad look from what I can see, and terrible tact and taste.
    Apparently, neither of you fully read what I said, and it seems everyone wound up reading the whole "spend a little on myself" part while completely missing/ignoring what I had stated just before then.

    I shall re-quote it for everyone's benefit, with the important points bolded, italicized, and underlined.

    [...] we owe $180 on the check for an apparent hospital-related charge that has come up (and in truth been up for at least a month or so - it came up while we were dealing with warrants, by which point I'd told her to let it sit there until all this warrant shit was killed). If that's all that's owed, great - we get the check, she takes care of her bills (she'd better, because she knows I'll be pissed at her if she just hands over the whole check to me without taking care of her back bills), makes sure she will be good to go financially from then on (i.e; food in the house, gas in the car, some extra money until our next paycheck after the next one on the 12th), and she gives me the rest, cutting deeply into her debt she owes me (and in turn letting me begin to pay back BLers and others not related to the site who've lent me anything).

    At that point, most of BL is paid off
    , but I will probably keep at least a thousand or two for now [...]
    Translation: After making sure my co-worker is no longer fucked financially, she will give me what is left. Out of what is left, the vast majority of that will go towards righting the debts I've gotten into with other BLers.

    In other words, before I even buy something for myself, most of BL will be paid off. The only ones who probably won't be paid back in full will be those who gave the most (for very obvious reasons), and even in their case, I'd like to slash what I owe them in at least half. So yes, most of that check actually is going right back to those who gave me money - save for a small chunk of it.

    After all, it is kind of nice to have some money again after basically three months of perpetually having none.

    I'm not putting myself ahead of those who've given me money here first; at the same time, I'd be lying if I said that out of whatever I get on that check (which I'm estimating to be approximately $5000-7000 after the lawyer takes 2/3rds and my co-worker clears her back bills), that I wouldn't keep at least a small piece of that for myself just so that I can have some money back in my pocket again and to get myself something nice eventually after three months of very nasty stress. The remaining few thousand I would owe to BLers would then be paid out of my work checks and whatever else she gives me over that time period. Even doing it that way, I should have everyone squared off again by perhaps January, February at latest. By my calculations, I owe everyone (both on BL and a few people who have nothing to do with BL) perhaps about $6500-7000. Of course, if the check is somehow more than that (either lawyer takes diminished cut, or co-worker's back bills aren't as bad as I surmise they are), then hey - I can pay everyone back in full immediately and not have to sacrifice literally half my paychecks from work towards repayment.

    So sorry if I'd like to eventually spend $600-700 on myself after I give at least $5000-6000 back to those who've loaned me money, especially when most of those people gave no set timeframe, said "pay it back as you can," and I made a very public declaration that if they needed to be repaid ASAP to message me and I would prioritize them over those who could afford to wait. I intend to pay off the smaller ones outright, and slash the larger ones in at least half, and from there I will use my work checks to cover the rest to the tune of at least $500-600 a month (which is half of my take-home pay per month - the remainder is bills and a paltry $100-200 for myself) until they, too, are paid back in full and squared away again.

    Then, I will buy myself something.

    If that makes me a greedy fucker, then I guess I'm a greedy fucker. Sorry for trying to keep a little bit of money for myself too, and for not just handing everything of that check over to everyone so as to minimize their debts and leave myself with dick until they're paid back down to every cent.

    And to be frankly honest, if what I get is closer to $5000, then yes, even me buying something will have to wait awhile. I'm not fucking stupid here.
  13. Mooncake's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Strife ❤️
    Can someone chip in $3000 for me to get a Titan V, I’m an e-girl but I can’t get 60fps at 4K so it’s very sad...

    If you donate more than $500 I’ll send you a nice selfie
    I'll give you a dollar to bugger off, trying to use my money for computer parts.

    smh
  14. Strife ❤️'s Avatar
    Can someone chip in $3000 for me to get a Titan V, Iím an e-girl but I canít get 60fps at 4K so itís very sad...

    If you donate more than $500 Iíll send you a nice selfie
  15. Five_X's Avatar
    No. Pay people back first. Without their money - money they could've spent on anything else, but chose to be kind and generous and offer to help this cause - you wouldn't have gotten to the point you're at now. You need to respect that.
  16. Tobias's Avatar
    Speaking as someone who kicked in about a thousand, I would actually encourage him to go ahead and actually not be focused on money or debts for a bit.

    im just happy to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Congratulations to you and your friend.
  17. Snow's Avatar
    Quite. You're talking about 'treating yourself' to superexpensive computer doodads, even listing their huge prices, while there's people yet to be paid off. I assume people donated with the intention of helping you and your coworker out of a difficult situation, not for your entertainment expenses, and you did iirc write a number of times in your posts that you intend to pay people back as soon as possible. EXTREMELY bad look from what I can see, and terrible tact and taste.
  18. Lianru's Avatar
    I don't think it's in very good taste to talk about all the hundreds of dollars you plan to spend on things you don't need before paying back people who donated literally tons more than you put in yourself. They are honestly the real heroes and deserve to be treated as such.
  19. Dark Pulse's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Tobias
    What if the fail me out

    ...still frame it?
    No, then go to the press about how the GOP won't let a hardworking American fulfill his dreams.
  20. Tobias's Avatar
    What if the fail me out

    ...still frame it?