The Ramblings Of A Fool

You feel what you feel, really. Trying to gauge yourself with other people experience is pointless and harmful to yourself.

If what you feel for your family you define it as love, or not, is only for you, no one else. Everyone loves different so there's that too. Discussion about it only ends in exactly this, a feeling of not getting it, that is not "normal" and stuff may go downhill after that.

Thank you for your input Laith.

I find that unconditional love isnt really love. And besides people express love in different ways, though I'm prolly not the person to give advice for loving your family.

It's different things for different people. My dad died almost 3 years ago (on April 15th - tax day, of all days), but he and mom divorced before I was a year old, and me seeing him was mostly weekend-type stuff. As a result, it hurt, but I got through his funeral without really crying or anything, and in fact my greatest sadness is he'll never get to see his grandkids from me - he was a lot better of a grandfather (to my niece) than he was as a father to me and my sister.

Mom, on the other hand, she raised me pretty much entirely by herself and has been through so much stuff it's a bit of a miracle she's even alive now, and she's only 51. It's gonna hurt like hell when she goes, I know it.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychopathy

Congrats on your edge, OP.

Does anyone else here feel extremely uncomfortable when they're close to a human being? I always feel a bit wary and I never feel fine till they stop touching me.

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OK man you had me going for a bit there.

It's mostly hugs. Although that might have come from my mother. She hated giving hugs as well.

Only time I felt really uncomfortable was when I was surrounded by a bunch of redneck pillheads in a middle of nowhere Walmart in Florida during Black Friday sales.

I've thought of the same things as you Umbra, I however feel I have a valid reason for not feeling unconditional love towards my parents that I am not willing to share here.

I don't think you should be worried about it though, just feel what you feel, you can't really decide to be sad when you aren't.

Well you know, life's like that. There's a belief out there that all people should feel certain things always, but nothing's cut and dry like that.

You got your obligations, your duties, your social responsibilities, but at the end of the day, those things aren't specifically intrinsic. Humans don't have that many instincts, so your thoughts and values are mostly going to be shaped by your life experiences.

Just so happened your particular ones didn't really imprint any particular passion on de facto biological ties. That's not uncommon, I'd think.

I always feel a bit wary and I never feel fine till they stop touching me.

Urgh, physical contact. What's up with that.

They always say you don't realize the worth of something to you unless you lose it.

how old are you really im just curious

under 18 does not get banned here

Oh good, then they can finally stop pretending that they love you, too.

Describe the emotion of not having emotions.

I'm dying to know